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“Beanie, do you think you are the geekiest girl in your class?”

“Most likely,” she says with pride.

Me and The Bean

My daughter and I are alike in many ways.

We’re both curious about the world, good students, and a little self-conscious and awkward at times.  We both have big hearts, but can be taken as stand-offish.

I’ve always embraced my nerdish charm, but she wears hers even more proudly.

It stinks for her that her mom and dad aren’t married anymore.  But in another way, she’s very lucky.

She ended up with a great step-mom that helps keep her in line, and keeps the communication between homes seamless.

And, she ended up with a step-dad that has helped her inner geek blossom.

I forget how it all started.

Somehow my little girl got hooked on fantasy books.  She read books about princesses, then moved on to The Sisters Grimm, The Warriors, and has plowed her way through six Harry Potter books in the last three weeks.  She checks out books about Greek and Norse mythology, has read the Neil Gaiman books that are kid appropriate, and she loves the Bathroom Reader books for all the little bits of data.

Someday she will be the queen of trivia.

When I have to punish her, I do it by taking away reading privileges.

She’s joined chess club, loves her glasses, and can sit for hours imagining stories or watching the chickens.

Bean likes to play the zillions of board games we have stocked on our shelves, but she really looks forward to playing role playing games with the crew.

I think she’s growing into the big kid that she wants to be.

Bean has tons of fun with her dad.  They play video games, go swimming, and watch NASCAR together.

Bean and I have fun by sitting around talking, watching movies, doing crafts, reading together, or going for walks.

Bean has fun with her stepmom cooking together.

But Jeremy has brought out this whole other geeky dimension to her personality that could only be possible as an apprenticeship.

The two of them talk about parallels of mythology and the fantasy books they’ve read.  Jeremy helps her create characters for role playing games; so she can fly spaceships as a one-eyed hawk, or fight giants as a fairy.  He waits patiently as the kids get way off-track in their story telling.

Jeremy helps her dig deep into the meanings of her drawings, and never tells her that her ideas are preposterous.  He plays off of her ideas, and helps her explain them more clearly.

I see my little girl embracing herself, and that’s pretty cool.

I think having so many adults with so many interests and personalities has given her more opportunity to discover herself;

and like the person smiling back at her in the mirror.

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