Security.
I can’t believe that I forgot to include security in my values post.
Security always rears its head my decision making process. I would like to think that time with the family, and creativity would be tops on the list. But, when it comes time to make scary decisions, security bubbles up to the top and pushes the other values down a few notches. Security is also lingering in the small decisions, like when I choose the cheapest meal on a menu to save a few bucks, or get whiny about wasted food and making the kids change into play clothes.
What does security do for me?
Well, it helps me make responsible, adult decisions needed to provide for my family and myself. And by provide, I mean it gives me the financial resources to keep a roof over our heads. Security = stability for me. The value of security is also the hidden value that is leading me astray from my other core values.
By choosing the secure path, I am depleted at the end of my days from a job that sucks my energy. The financial security that I bring to my family is also hindering my ability to fully provide the emotional support and quality and quantity time that the kids need. Security brings with it fear of failure…a fear of trying new things. By falling back on “secure” decisions, I am keeping the fun, creativity, and family time out of a primary spot in my life.
Wow, how did I miss this?
Valuing security is not very glamourous.
It’s sort of like someone that values fashion, says it’s not an important value to them, but spends most of their disposable income, shopping.
Or someone that says beauty isn’t important, but is always on a diet trying to lose weight.
Security is a hidden value for me that I wish would go away. It’s the value that for whatever reasons, is part of the baggage that I carry that I just can’t set down.
So, what are your hidden values? What comes up when you are most raw in your decision making processes-big or little?
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